*sigh* I just sent my parents/siblings off to their own homes after spending Thanksgiving enjoying their company...and I did enjoy it. I was a little sad to pass a second Thanksgiving not pregnant but not too bad.
The title....ahhh, yes. Why is it that people are so thoughtless sometimes? I talked with my "best" friend from childhood a few days ago. She is learning to cope with 3 kids now. She is a fertile myrtle....She got pg with #1 after about 2 months of ttc....she was NOT ttc#2 & had to "get over it being so soon" & she decided not to use protection ONCE when she conceived #3 in January of this year. Ugh. I would never wish infertility on her....don't get me wrong! I wouldn't wish this on my very worst enemy.....but my "friend" actually had the nerve to tell me that maybe I should think about the fact that maybe my weight has something to do with my infertility......UUUUHHHHMMMMM, I wanted to say...."really??? Well, I didn't even realize I was 100 lbs overweight!! I'll start thinking about that right now!!". I mean REALLY? She really thinks I haven't thought that....every day?.....for the last 19 months of ttc???? Sheesh. Then she did it. She actually told me...."Well, at least you don't have to worry about using protection....that must be nice." I could NOT believe she actually said that to me while she was nursing her brand new baby & I was sitting alone in my bathroom with an empty, barren womb. So, I gathered my confused & scattered thoughts & told her that yes, it is nice not to use protection, but that the struggle was in wanting something SO badly & not knowing if it would ever be given. It didn't really hit me until after we had gotten off the phone. That was pretty much the end of our conversation. I just chalked it up to a lack of sleep on her part & am working on forgiving her for being so uncaring. I'm still bitter about it, but I'll get over it. She just does NOT understand infertility. I'm ready for another baby & I've been crying out everyday to the Lord to bless us with one (or twins!) very soon.
I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving! God bless!
Oh, & I wanted to tell my sweet friend Sarah, CONGRATULATIONS!! Her sweet baby girl Clara arrived yesterday & I'm SO happy for them!! Enjoy your girls, hon!
YEAST RAISED WAFFLES
9 years ago
2 comments:
I understand completely! It's not that I want people to 'experience' infertility but there are days when I just want to shake them until infertility and ALL it encompasses sinks into their thick heads.
Wow, that came out sounding kind of bitter, but you know what I mean, right? ;)
I DO know what you mean!! I really don't believe my friend meant to be so cold...she just doesn't "get it"!! Pretty frustrating on my end....hmmm, I may have to give the shaking bit some thought!! LOL!! Thanks, Kate!
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