Wow....this touched me so deeply....

Jess over at A Little Blog About the Big Infertility posted the following quote from Laura Bush's book and, oh my, how true these words are. I've always been a Bush fan....George, Sr., George, Jr., Laura, Barbara.....but I never knew that Laura and I had infertility in common. I know I have 2 beautiful girls and I have struggled with the validity of my infertility. My aunt (whom I LOVE), told me that I don't struggle with infertility because I have 2 children. *sigh* It took us a year to get pg with dd#2 and now that seems like nothing but that year was so painful....I only ovulated the ONE time and God blessed, but our ttc journey to baby#3 has been almost 5 years long....and it hurts. I hug my girls and feel SO blessed to have them....but I long for one more baby. This doesn't make me a horrible, ungrateful person...it makes me a woman. The pain of longing for baby#1 or baby#4 is them same....it's just pain that's looking from a different direction. TTC#1 you are longing for something that you know has to be wonderful, but you've never experienced.....TTC#2 or more you are longing for something that you've already experienced, you know exactly what you are missing and just how wonderful it is. Both are painful, both are valid and both women can identify with the following quote...........

The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence. For the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, child or friend, we have all manner of words and phrases, some helpful some not. Still we are conditioned to say something, even if it is only “I’m sorry for your loss.”

But for an absence, for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent ephemeral shadows over their lives.

Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?- Laura Bush